Relationship Counselling

We offer counselling to individuals and couples facing a variety of difficulties:

  • Stress
  • Relationships
  • Depression
  • Bereavement
  • Sexual Abuse
  • Alcohol or Drug Problems
  • Any other Personal Problems

Relationship counselling is available to anyone over 16 who is worried about or wants to explore the impact of their adult relationships. You don’t have to be in a relationship to come for counselling. You can come if you’re single, in a civil partnership, married, living with someone, separated, divorced, widowed or if you are having problems finding or keeping a relationship.

Counselling offers you a safe space in which to explore how you feel about and experience your relationships. We don’t offer advice, tell you what to do, judge or try to save relationships. Although we can help you to have the difficult conversations with your partner, we can’t tell you what to say or do. That’s for you to decide.

Usually we see couples together; however, sometimes we ask to see them individually.  Your counsellor will discuss this with you.  Where any aspect of domestic conflict, whether it be for you or your partner, is an issue we will always ask to see a couple for individual sessions.

Get in touch if you have any more questions or would like to make an appointment. You can contact us yourself, or a GP, healthcare professional or other agency can refer you.

FAQs

What happens at counselling?
If you decide that relationship counselling can help you, the first step is to get in touch with us. We’ll get back to you as soon as we can. You will be asked some questions when you first contact a local service to ensure we give you the best possible support.

Although we would like to be able to offer appointments when people first contact us, there may be a short waiting list.

Please let us know if domestic violence or abuse is an issue so that we can offer you an appointment on your own to start with.

What happens at the first appointment?
The first few sessions will be about assessing your situation with you to see what the difficulties are and looking at what needs to change. It is also the time when you can see if counselling is the right choice for you.

Usually couples are seen together, but sometimes a counsellor will ask to meet each person individually to fully assess their situation. This might occur if you disclose issues, such as domestic conflict or abuse, where we would need to assess whether relationship counselling is the best option.

Couple counselling is not right for every relationship. In some instances, it can make difficult situations worse. Your counsellor will discuss this with you and advise of other services that may be appropriate for you.

How long does counselling take?
Counselling sessions usually last about 50 minutes. They are with the same counsellor and usually at the same time each week.

It is difficult to say how many sessions you may need. Most counsellors will offer to see you four to six times initially and then review with you. At this point, you may feel your relationship is in a different place and that you have done all you need to do for now. You can always come back at a later date. Or if you feel you need more time, your counsellor will explore with you how many more sessions you would like. Counselling isn’t a quick fix. It could take several months or more to work through your difficulties; it depends on what your situation is and what needs to change.

What does relationship counselling cost?
We do not charge for counselling. We are a charity do welcome donations which enable us to run our service.
Who are the counsellors?
Most of our counsellors have been trained by Relationships Scotland and have, or are working towards, a diploma in couple counselling, which is a three-year course.

Some of our counsellors are on the current training course. If they are students, they will have already completed a large part of the academic requirement of the course and will have been assessed as competent to see couples.

We also have a small number of counsellors on placement from university approved diploma courses who want to work with couples.
Whoever your counsellor is, they will have been assessed as experienced and competent to work with us. Counsellors are all expected to abide by the codes of practice of Relationships Scotland and their own professional organisation. They will work ethically and professionally at all times.

What about confidentiality?
Anyone who uses our services can expect that we will keep their private information confidential. We will not give anyone any information about you, including your contact details, without your permission. If you have been referred to us by another professional, such as a GP or social worker, we will let them know that we have seen you, but not what we have discussed.

However, we cannot guarantee full confidentiality. There may be times when we have to disclose information, for example:

  • if we have reason to believe that you, a child or anyone else is at risk of harm or abuse
  • if we have to for legal reasons – if the courts instruct us to
  • if you ask us to or give us permission to
  • if we have a duty to the public – if you tell us of a major criminal act